Soul Midwife

Death is more than just a physical experience. It’s a transformational soul-journey, for the dying person and for those who love and care for them.

Western medicine gives us many valuable gifts, but how people die has radically changed over recent generations with advances in hospital care and life being prolonged.

Modern death is often feared, filled with sadness and at best good but clinical because it has moved from a family and community setting. End of Life care, skills, knowledge and traditions of tending to the dying are now unfamiliar.

Soul Midwives, or Transitioners, help set a rebalance to dying, death and grieving and help people reclaim how they want to die. We support the dying on their path, but it is not a path to walk alone.

What is a Soul Midwife?

What is a Soul Midwife?

Soul Midwives give holistic comfort, care and support for the person transitioning. We are transitioners. Just like we assist the newborn in birth, it’s as important we help a dying person find their way to begin the next part of their sacred journey.

Our care is non-religious and non-denominational based.  We work with our deep knowledge of the stages of dying, and of the emotional, physical and spiritual aspects of each of these. We use gentle, but extremely powerful holistic skills and therapeutic techniques to help ease anxieties, supporting anyone to prepare for and experience the death they would like to have.

We visit, listen, talk about any fears surrounding death and dying, and give practical planning advice and support. We work holistically to help create and hold a loving, calm and peaceful space, wherever the dying person may be.

Every Soul Midwife undertakes comprehensive training with award winning Felicity Warner and her Soul Midwife School. For more information you can visit www.soulmidwives.co.uk

Huge transformations are taking place with modern end of life care. The Soul Midwife movement is building solid bridges between clinical staff and medical professionals who recognise the vital need and importance for changes to be made with how we currently care for the dying.

A report “Value of Death: Bringing Death Back Into Life.“  by The Lancet Commission, published in February 2022, highlighted how unbalanced dying is in modern day times. (https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(21)02314-X/fulltext)

The report calls for a radical rethink of how dying and death is approached. Caring for the dying is a gift, but conversations about death and dying can be difficult. Doctors, patients, or family members may find it easier to avoid them altogether and continue treatment, leading to inappropriate treatment at the end of life.

Rebalancing death and dying will depend on changes across the many interconnected social, cultural, economic, religious, and political factors that determine how death, dying, and bereavement are understood, experienced, and managed and dying and death is not only a physical act, but a deeply spiritual process.

How can I support you?

Soul Midwifes come from many different backgrounds but we all answer a deeply profound calling to help and be of comfort in the transitional stages of dying. One universal attribute shared by us all is we have deep, compassionate hearts which allows us to “listen with the heart and see with the hands” and will walk alongside anyone on their final journey.

Each Soul midwife comes with unique sets of skills and knowledge stored in our healing baskets and we’re always keen to add more. I’m a Level 1& 2 qualified Soul Midwife  and can support you as much or as little as you wish on your journey.

​I offer a range of support, including but not limited to:

◉ End of life companion

◉ Help create a death plans and facilitate open conversations about dying and death with loved ones

◉ Hold space for deep listening. Soul Midwives can truly connect and really ‘hear’ what someone is saying, – it is not always communicated with words.

◉ Guided visualisations, creating memories and keepsakes to leave behind and celebrate a life

◉ Use sacred oils for therapeutic work or blessings

◉ Breath work to help with stress, anxieties or emotions

◉ Spiritual guide to release of Soul Wounds and be a guide at the point of death

◉ Soothing holistic therapies such as Reiki, crystal therapy, sound therapy and ‘gentle touch’

◉ Energy work to release stuck energies and prepare for a peaceful release during the transcendent stage

◉ Vigil and hold a sacred space during final moments

Also, I can offer:

Reiki is a therapeutic practice from Japan which harnesses “Universal life force energy”  to flow wherever healing is needed  – physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels all at the same time. Healing isn’t always about regeneration. For the dying, healing brings energies to balance in the body as the energy centres (chakras and meridians) unravel. This helps the person understand and cope with what is happening and help alleviate pain so they are more physically comfortable.

The Soul Midwifery Sacred Oils, which many have been used for thousands of years to aid healing and transitions, have different qualities and ‘energetic signatures’, as well as the scent. They work to help create a beautiful and peaceful space with therapeutic properties for different stages of dying.

Also, I can offer:

◉ Crystal Healing therapy and intuitively select crystals who either call to me or be selected by their energetic benefits, for each person I work with.

◉ Soothing Sound Healing Therapy with crystal bowls, Himalayan bowls, Koshi Chimes, Tingsha Bells, grounding percussion instruments like rain sticks, gentle music, the sounds of nature and use the tone and sounds of my voice. These sounds cradle the soul like a lullaby.

◉ Gentle, therapeutic touch as a way of connecting to each person I work with on an energetic, emotional and physical level. Touch is the first sense used when we are born. Perhaps because it is one of the very first senses experienced, gentle touch is one of the last to be tolerated by our dying friends in elemental withdrawal. Touch takes us back to our earliest, conscious or unconscious memories of security, love and support thus offers great comfort in the final, ebbing stages of life.

PHOTO BY: di Barstow

When Robins Appear…

Some Soul Midwifes work with totems or guides. My particular physical feathered guide is the Robin, they appear in the strangest of places and visit daily wherever I may be.

For centuries, this tiny bird has been the symbol of good luck, happiness, rebirth. More important, they are seen as messengers for lost, loved ones and to remind us they are near. Many stories surround the Robin, stretching back to Norse mythology when the Robin is the protector from storms or in Celtic folklore the Robin is the Oak Hing of Summer

Every time I’m visited by a Robin, I intuitively know my totem guide is with me.

The 12 Principles of Soul Midwifery

◉ To work as non-medical holistic companions who guide and support a dying person in order to facilitate a gentle and tranquil death.
◉ To support and recognise the individual needs of the dying person and ensure they feel loved and supported.
◉ To create and hold a sacred and healing space for the dying person (whether in a hospital, a hospice or at home).
◉ To respect and honour a dying person’s religious/spiritual or atheist/agnostic beliefs and practices.
◉ To work as non-denominational, multi-faith practitioners who honour the dying person’s beliefs about life, death or the afterlife.
◉ To listen, provide gentle therapeutic techniques, and ensure compassionate care at all times.
◉ To ‘serve’ our friend; not aim to ‘fix’ or ‘rescue’.
◉ To give healing, using sound, touch, colour, scented oils or other gentle techniques to alleviate pain and anxiety.
◉ To keep a loving vigil.
◉ To work holistically with the spirit and soul of our friends at all levels and stages of transition.
◉ To support families and their loved ones, giving loving care with a human touch.
◉ To provide comfort, continuous support and reassurance in helping a dying person to experience the death he or she wants.
If you would like to know more or is it time to talk, please get in touch.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why Do I Need A Soul Midwife?
Soul Midwives are here to help with the emotional side of dying for each person we become a companion. We can be that shoulder to cry on, an ear to deeply listen. We create a space for hearing your voice and listen to worries, concerns, or your inner most soul burdens that you feel unable to share with close, loved ones. Our main priority is to support and hold anything you want to say openly to us or want to express with your emotions. They go no further and are held safe. We can help you create, plan and direct your own path and journey to have the good death you wish and support your family to understand your wishes and feelings. This will pave your path to connecting with your soul and lay out your journey to a peaceful and hopefully gentle death.

We can also involve your family as much or as little as you wish. I can work with families by listening to their fears and thoughts on death, supporting their anxiety at losing a loved one and I can visit them after you're gone.  This visit could include any messages you'd like to pass on, or general love and support during a difficult time for them.

What are the Sessions Like?
It is in your hands how you would like to work with me. Typically our first session will be opening a safe and private space between us and sitting down together, getting to know each other and discuss hopes and fears or anything you wish. We talk about where you are now and look at which direction you would like to head towards.

I can guide you through end-of-life decisions like, getting your affairs in order and considering funeral options. Each session is led by checking in on where you are on the journey and what you need during that time.  I have a 'tool kit' which includes various holistic therapies, oils and other items which we chose together, or I intuitively select to help you through your journey where appropriate.

Our sessions can be held wherever you would like them to be.  If you can get out and about, we can meet somewhere convenient to you close to home (or not close to home – depending on you).  If you are unable to leave your bed, I can visit you at home, in hospital or in a Hospice. The location is flexible depending on your needs.

Are You Insured?
Yes.  I am trained by Felicity Warner at the Soul Midwives School in the UK. Felicity insists all practising Soul Midwives are fully insured. I am fully insured for all my therapies with Balens.
Do Soul Midwives Charge?
For me, yes. We would all love to do this work for free if it was possible, but we have bills to pay and have invested thousands in this specialist and extensive training. Like all my other therapy training, Soul Midwifery is a professional qualification. On top of training, I have an expensive tool kit, therapy tools, keep up to date with regular CPD, insurance, admin and website costs. We are very fortunate in the UK to have excellent NHS and Hospice care, but there is no funding for the Soul Midwife End of Life Care.

Soul midwives all work differently. Some are in the position to be able to volunteer which would be ideal but for most of us it isn’t possible, like myself, we offer services at different prices. Other than my work with at a local care home, all my complementary therapies I offer are paid for. My Soul Midwife work will be discussed and arranged on an individual and personal basis. Your care is very individual, as is the pricing. However, I will always try to help those who get in touch, so please reach out if you need help or would like some advice. Our aim is to help as many people as possible who face the end of their lives and for no one to face death alone. If you’d like to work with me, but have
difficulties paying, please get in touch and reach out for a chat.

Will Our Conversations Be Kept Private and Confidential?
Yes. We are here for you and you alone. Our time is for you to feel comfortable to open up and bear as much as you want or work through releasing soul wounds that are being felt. I hold a safe, a safe, non-judgemental space for the dying to release what's on their mind and in their heart and soul. This deep work allows a peaceful transition when the time comes.
What is the Difference Between a Soul Midwife and a Medical, Palliative Care Nurse?
Our Nurses and Palliative care nurses do an amazing, complex job. They are trained to support the dying on a medical and practical level.  A Soul Midwife complements the work of a medical team by supporting the dying in a non-medical way. We are more the emotional support part of the team.

We help the dying find their way through their journey by understanding their wants and needs, creating death plans and enabling people to leave gifts of you as a person for those you love. We also emotionally, holistically and spiritually support the dying through their final journey, along with holding sacred spaces and vigiling during final hours.  We also work with the families to support them in their grief during a time that can feel traumatic.  Nurses are wonderful angels, but most aren't trained to support the emotional aspects and they don’t have the time to do this work whilst practically and medically caring for their patients.

My Loved Ones In The Final Stages, Am I Too Late?
No, it’s never too late. I, like most Soul Midwifes, have the gift to communicate, send love and peace to someone during their final days or hours without having to plan, talk or make prior arrangements. Soul Midwives can do a great deal of work without having to say any words. We are simply present and hold the time and space for those close to death and for their loved ones around them.
Are Soul Midwives Religious/Spiritual?
Soul Midwives are non-medical, holistic companions who guide and support the dying to facilitate a gentle and peaceful death.  We support people with deep religious faiths, those exploring their faith, spiritual leaders and people with no spiritual beliefs at all.  I work with you and your beliefs and values. Your faith is your own. My primary aim is to be present to solely support your soul with love and compassion. I am here to serve you.
I Have Never Heard of a Soul Midwife
Many people haven’t come across us – to date (February 2022), there are about 1,000 Soul
Midwives in the UK and worldwide or you may have heard of the term Death Doula. We come from all walks of life, ages, and backgrounds and have a huge variety of skills and experience to bring.

The Soul Midwife movement is currently making huge steps forward to building solid bridges between clinical staff and medical professionals in the NHS who recognise the vital need and importance of changes to be made with how we currently care for the dying.

Soul Midwives are helping bring death back into its natural and traditional rhythms and bring it back into balance. Western medicine gives us many valuable gifts, but how people die has radically changed over recent generations with advances in hospital care and life being prolonged.

Modern death is often feared, filled with sadness and at best good but clinical because it has moved from a family and community setting. End of Life care, skills, knowledge and traditions of tending to the dying are now unfamiliar.

The “Value of Death: Bringing Death Back Into Life.“ by The Lancet Commission, published in
February 2022, calls for a radical rethink of how dying and death is approached. Caring for the dying is a gift, but conversations about death and dying can be difficult. Doctors, patients, or family members may find it easier to avoid them altogether and continue treatment, leading to inappropriate treatment at the end of life. The is a deep need to rebalance dying and death. It is not only a physical act, but a deeply spiritual process.

What Area Do You Cover?
My work is within the Northeast of England, UK.  I'm based in Washington, Tyne and Wear and mainly cover the areas of Washington, Sunderland, South Tyneside and Durham.  If you live further afield then please do get in touch as I can travel we would just need to arrange travel expenses.
How Can I get in Contact?
Please feel free to contact by email or call. I generally respond to emails withing 24 hours.